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Friday, February 19, 2010


How to Manage a Baby's Sleep Needs when Travelling




Babies' and children's sleep is often difficult to handle when travelling. This article provides advice[1] on ensuring that sleeping needs continue to be met despite the changes brought on by travel.


Steps:



Journeys by car



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    Expect the motion to assist you. If your baby is like most babies and tends to be lulled to sleep with motion, then she will doze on and off during any journey. Of course, if you have travelled during the day, this excessive sleep can affect her ability to settle down and sleep at night, once you have reached your destination. Her settling can be further affected by the fact that she will be sleeping in a different environment to home.

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    • There are two possible solutions to this challenge:



    1. Travel during the night.

    2. Put her to bed much later than usual, and only do so when she is showing signs of tiredness.

Airline Travel



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    Plan in advance. If you are intending to travel by plane or if you are going to a country which has a significant time difference, it is worth planning ahead, so that you can minimize any disruption to your baby's, and your, sleep.



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    Prepare for the flight. In preparation for the flight, if possible:




    •  Reserve a bassinet, or find out the policy on taking baby car seats on board.



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    If necessary, take an infant painkiller with you. Fresh unopened sachets are easier to use and pre-measured for convenience. It's wise to get a doctor's note giving you permission to take it on the plane.



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    Try apple rings. If your baby is old enough (4 months plus) buy some dried organic apple rings. Hook one onto her thumb and allow her to suck and chew it if she gets bored. This will also help with her ear pressure. Alternatively, use a dummy or pacifier.



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    Dress your baby in a simple one piece soft suit with popper fastenings and take two or three more with you for the journey.



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    Have a good baby bag in tow. A light, roomy bag with lots of compartments will help you feel organized and in control.



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    Check in as early as you can, and don't be afraid to ask if there are any spare seats.



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    As soon as you can after take off, offer your baby a drink. This will help to ease any pressure in her ears, as well as preventing dehydration.



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    Allow your baby to sleep as much as she likes on the plane. Regardless of the time difference, feed her at the usual times as far as possible. If you need a bottle to be warmed, ask well in advance.



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    Keep her entertained. When she is awake, entertain her by walking her up and down, pointing out things to her in a suitable in-flight film and allowing her to play with a few safe objects. Don't bother packing too many toys though; she'll soon get bored with them!

Arriving at your Destination



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    Allow for familiarisation time. Once at your destination, if she is awake, allow her time to familiarise herself with her new surroundings. Do not allow another (especially unfamiliar) family member to put her to bed on her first night – no matter how tempting that might be.



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    Try to go to bed at the same time as your baby. If you are travelling with your partner, it is a good idea to organize yourselves into shifts to deal with the night, or very early morning waking, which is so common when you change time zones.

Keeping things Familiar



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    When your baby is in an unfamiliar place, you can help her to feel safe and secure by following the same bedtime routine as you do at home.



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    Sing the same night time songs to her and keep to your familiar bedtime stories.



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    Don't forget to bring along a favourite toy – especially one that your baby associates with sleep.

The Next Day



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    Start early! If necessary, one of you should get up and start the day much earlier than usual with your baby as she begins to adjust to the time difference. This is better than bringing her into your bed. Remember that if she is very wakeful, the chances are that you will be too!



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    Allow for sleeping in. On the following day, allow her to sleep freely during the early part of the day, this nap may be far longer than usual. Then restrict afternoon napping and put her to bed closer to local “bed time”.



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    Remember that babies are far more flexible than adults when it comes to adjusting to a different time zone. Try following your baby's lead and soon you will all have adapted to the time change.

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Monday, June 01, 2009

Names That Come and Go
The popularity of first names in the United States changes over time. Some first names become popular suddenly and then disappear from regular use, while other names seem to be popular for many, many years. (To come and go means to be temporary, not to last long.)

A recent article in the New York Times listed the most popular first names for babies over the past 100 plus years. It is interesting to see which names have stood the test of time (lasted a long time, have not changed in many years) and which names came and went. For example, Mildred was a very popular name in the 1920s in the US. You could find many young girls named Mildred (as well as Evelyn and Virginia). But now almost no one names their child Mildred. In fact, if you see the name Mildred, you might laugh a little, since it is such an old-fashioned (old and no longer used) name. Similarly, Grover was popular in the late 19th century, but not in recent years. (The picture at right is of President Grover Cleveland, who was president in the late 19th century.)

The article says that names that suddenly or very quickly become popular usually don't last very long. For example, in the 1950s, Linda suddenly became very popular, but then dropped in popularity within a few years. Amy was a popular name for girls in the 1970s (the president of the United States, Jimmy Carter, had a daughter named Amy), but then declined in popularity by the 1990s. Names that slowly become popular seem to last longer. During the 1990s and early 2000s, names such as Zachery, Cody, and Adam were popular.

In some countries, it is common for English students to take an "English" name that is easier to spell and pronounce. This gives students the opportunity to choose their own names, which can be a lot of fun. Some of the names that are chosen, however, are no longer popular in the US. I once had a student who called herself Gertrude, which is a name that has not been popular in the US since the 1930s. The name sounded odd to an American, but of course she probably didn't realize that is was no longer used very much.

There are some names that don't change much in popularity. The number of babies with these names is usually not large, but it is steady (stable, not going up or down in number). For example, Ellen, Maria, Russell, Paul, Douglas, and Patrick are all names that have been relatively constant (steady) in popularity in the past 100 years in the US. Daniel has also been popular for many years, especially in the 1990s.

What are the names that are suddenly becoming popular now? Here is a list:

  • Ava (girl)
  • Ella (girl)
  • Addison (boy or girl?)
  • Aiden (boy)
  • Jayden or Jaden (boy)
  • Caden or Kaden (boy)
  • Trinity (girl)

So if you want to adopt an English first name, you might want to avoid Mildred or Grover, and instead use names that are more current. I suggest either "Jeff" or "Lucy."

Friday, January 04, 2008

FOLLOW YOUR DREAM

I have a friend named Monty Roberts who owns a horse ranch in San Ysidro. He has let me use his house to put on fund-raising events to raise money for youth at risk programs.

The last time I was there he introduced me by saying, "I want to tell you why I let Jack use my house. It all goes back to a story about a young man who was the son of an itinerant horse trainer who would go from stable to stable, race track to race track, farm to farm and ranch to ranch, training horses. As a result, the boy's high school career was continually interrupted. When he was a senior, he was asked to write a paper about what he wanted to be and do when he grew up.

"That night he wrote a seven-page paper describing his goal of someday owning a horse ranch. He wrote about his dream in great detail and he even drew a diagram of a 200- acre ranch, showing the location of all the buildings, the stables and the track. Then he drew a detailed floor plan for a 4,000-square-foot house that would sit on a 200-acre dream ranch.

"He put a great deal of his heart into the project and the next day he handed it in to his teacher. Two days later he received his paper back. On the front page was a large red F with a note that read, 'See me after class.'

"The boy with the dream went to see the teacher after class and asked, 'Why did I receive an F?'

"The teacher said, 'This is an unrealistic dream for a young boy like you. You have no money. You come from an itinerant family. You have no resources. Owning a horse ranch requires a lot of money. You have to buy the land. You have to pay for the original breeding stock and later you'll have to pay large stud fees. There's no way you could ever do it.' Then the teacher added, 'If you will rewrite this paper with a more realistic goal, I will reconsider your grade.'

"The boy went home and thought about it long and hard. He asked his father what he should do. His father said, 'Look, son, you have to make up your own mind on this. However, I think it is a very important decision for you.'

"Finally, after sitting with it for a week, the boy turned in the same paper, making no changes at all. He stated, 'You can keep the F and I'll keep my dream.'"

Monty then turned to the assembled group and said, "I tell you this story because you are sitting in my 4,000- square-foot house in the middle of my 200-acre horse ranch. I still have that school paper framed over the fireplace." He added, "The best part of the story is that two summers ago that same schoolteacher brought 30 kids to camp out on my ranch for a week." When the teacher was leaving, he said, 'Look, Monty, I can tell you this now. When I was your teacher, I was something of a dream stealer. During those years I stole a lot of kids' dreams. Fortunately you had enough gumption not to give up on yours.'"

Don't let anyone steal your dreams. Follow your heart, no matter what.

From Chicken Soup for the Soul
By Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen

Saturday, December 29, 2007

TWO WAYS OF KNOWING

By Gregory Mitchell
In this paper I am going to talk about the two sides of the brain, which are perplexing people somewhat. Here we are not denying that there is a mind that does the thinking, nor the possibility that there is a spirit that controls the mind. However we have to interact with the body and control it. The body is controlled via two brain centers. Some people are genetically right handed, and some are genetically left. A proportion of both left-handers and right-handers, may well be running on the wrong control center.
So the two sides of the body are to a certain degree specialized. For example, we will look at what the two hands do. Let us consider a right handed person, and make the necessary adjustments, in terms of left handed people.
A person's right hand controls fine detailed movement, such as writing, adjusting mechanisms, controlling tools, or doing anything, which requires sequential action as such. Whereas the left hand establishes an anchor point or reference point. It may hold on to something that we are working on, so there is a relative motion between the left hand, or reference point, and the right, so the action is grounded in reality. This is an analogy for the two modes of perceiving: the way of the left and the way of the right.
The way of perceiving, which is educated most in this culture, goes with the right hand - the left hand having been called the kack hand or the sinister hand. So two modes of knowing, two modes of perceiving the world and to deal with the material of this world exist. One is potential, the other one manifest - which in most people is the right hand side which corresponds to the left brain. You might say that the left brain is the chalk and the right brain the blackboard, when both sides of the brain are working together.
Functional Differences
If we contrast these two sides, the left side is linear, it can only deal with one thing at a time. It forgets rather rapidly, and a person who is learning in that mode may be called a 'stringer' - he will have to learn one thing very carefully, then the next and then the next. A person almost totally unable to take an overview was described by Luria, the great Russian neurologist. He describes this in his book 'Man with a Shattered World'. He talks of a soldier who received a bullet wound through the head, and the bullet damaged severely the right side of the brain, yet the man survived, but with very strange experiences. For example, while eating soup, when he concentrated on the soup the spoon disappeared; when he concentrated on the spoon, the soup disappeared; and when he concentrated on the flavor, the whole room disappeared. The left hemisphere is organized to deal with one detail at a time, whereas the right side deals with many details and provides the context. This is necessary too, otherwise the creation and perception of music would not be possible.
The left hemisphere can only deal with one note at a tine, whereas the right hemisphere looks at the overall context: that which has gone before, the immediate history of that piece of music, and the anticipation of what will happen as the music unfolds. A person without a right hemisphere could tune a guitar against a pitch pipe; he may be able to play the odd note if it is written down on a bit of paper, and in a very artificial way play some very simple tunes, but this would be done at a robotic level. Whereas with the other side of the brain, a person may easily translate intention into action, at the non-verbal level. Both types of consciousness are necessary, in most activities.
Both in children and primitive people, the degree of differentiation between the two sides of the brain is slight. So both sides are doing something like the same work; the difference is a matter of degree. And according to the German Philosopher Ernst Cassirer, many primitive people are unable to tell a lie, because this requires standing outside of oneself, to have an abstract perspective, so one can have feelings about one's thoughts or thoughts about one's feelings. A person with specialized hemispheres is able to have an abstract perspective, so lying is something he can do easily.
You may say, well why tell a lie? When we write a story or invent something, initially -we are telling a lie. We are creating a pretend universe. The classic form of this way of thinking would be, for example, 'were I to do so-and-so, if that, then that'. So we have one side of the brain which is capable of inventing, and the other which is trying to recreate reality. Both sides draw on much more primitive structures, such as the limbic system, which produces the imagery, much in the way of a video recorder, but in a different manner. The left side can isolate out a detail, which is a useful skill, so long as this skill does not become compulsive, whereas the right side is unable to deal with details; it looks at the general plan.
A person who is right brain dominant has a totally different learning style. When they are learning a subject, they will read every book in the library about it, and read everything else, talk to everybody and then, only gradually will a picture of what they are learning emerge out of the mist for them. You may say that one side of the brain is concerned with plan and the other with putting it into action. No single side of the brain, operating in isolation, is right. Full consciousness arises from an integration of the two sets of mental processes, which involve a cooperative or collaborative relationship between the two sides of the brain.
Experiential Differences
According to depth psychologists such as Arthur Janov and Matte Blanco, we may retreat into left brain modes of perceiving and acting, in which mode our emotions are memory, rather than what is being directly experienced, because the traumatic material is being stored in the right side of the brain in such a way that it is inaccessible. By splitting the storage of the memory in this way, we have a verbal description of the events that we can access, but we are unable to experience the pain and emotions of the memory.
Another person, who is in the right brain mode, may well have pain, emotion and effort visible; however, he is unable to access the intentions, decisions, conclusions and other verbally and conceptually stored material in the left, as this side of the brain is suppressed below the boundaries of consciousness. For example, when a person is in an extreme emotion, such as love, rage or grief, the words to express this do not come easily or they may not come at all.
Perceptual Differences
There are differences in the visual imagery between a left brain dominant person and a right brain dominant person. Left brain imagery tends to be small, and it is experienced as if it is inside the head, and it moves with you, whereas the imagery of a right brain nature, due to some peculiar arrangement of the balance, is such that if you turn your head, the imagery will tend to move, as though you were seeing something in the real world. If you moved your head to the left, the imagery would appear to move to your right.
For example, I can imagine with my eyes closed a chair that I am pointing at, and as I move my head, it will remain where my finger is pointing. The left brain imagery will tend to move with me, as I move around. So one sort of imagery can be described as grounded, whereas the other is ungrounded.
In perception, the right side of the brain is concerned with the spaces enclosed by objects. For example, I am looking at some plants that are in front of me, and I can see the various spaces exist between the leaves. This creates another set of shapes beyond the conventional. The left side would tend to see the thing itself, the figure rather than the ground. Likewise, I have done some experiments with some playing cards. The hearts and the diamonds were black, and the clubs and spades were red. When these cards were given to people who were left brain dominant, they actually experienced visible disturbance when they were trying to play with these cards, because it interfered with what is called conventional perception. Right brained persons have no difficulty playing with these types of cards.
Integration of the Two Sides
True higher creative thought arises from an integration of the two sides of the brain. Einstein said, "I will do a flight of fantasy and work on some thinking, which is not thinking as you would understand it, but a combinatorial play of some types of imageries and sensory feelings. Only when this activity comes to some resolution, would I fumble in the other side of my head for words and for algebraic statements, which would permit me to communicate these insights to others".
True thinking, which stands behind our conscious thinking, is non-verbal. A person, who is right brain dominant, when both sides are cooperating, uses words as his servants, whereas a person who is left brain dominated, frequently tends to be governed by words, belief systems and symbol systems, often to the exclusion of external reality.
Diagnosis
Some work has been done with a device, similar to a Psycho-Galvanometer, in one of the London hospitals in 1985. The meter was used as a diagnostic device, to find the discrepancies between what we would call the left hand measure of body resistance and the right hand measure. These differences have been found to represent particular clinical types. The Manic type has a significantly lower resistance on the left hand - the right brain is more highly aroused; and the Schizoid/Schizophrenic type has a much lower resistance on the right hand - the left brain is more highly aroused. This indicates either functional imbalance between the two sides, as a consequence of early traumatization or actual organic damage, resulting from illness or accident. In either case, when there is a discrepancy of magnitude between the electrical resistance of the left hand and the electrical resistance of the right, you will find an underlying problem. See the Bilateral Meter Course.
Summary
The right half of the brain controls the left side of the body, and the left side of the brain controls the right side of the body. Often people can be described as left brain dominant or right brain dominant: for example, artists tend to be right-brained, and mathematicians left-brained. The most able people, however, can easily switch from one type of thinking to the other, as their situation demands. A large part of Mind Development is directed at helping students to gain ability in both styles of thinking. If you examine a drawing of the brain, you will see it is divided into two sides. In the last two decades, research has clearly shown that each side of the brain has a unique set of mental abilities, or styles of thinking. These are shown in the table following.
The Two Hemispheres
Left
Verbal
Linear logic
Convergent, attention to detail
Solves Problems
Invented universes
Deals with time
Verbal and conceptual memory
Short term memory & memory for names
Algebra & Symbols
Introvert = Phlegmatic
Extravert = Sanguine
Can handle arbitrary symbols, such as a phonetic alphabet, where the symbols do
not have intrinsic qualities of the thing symbolized
Responsible for forming consonants
Motor control of tongue
This side controls speaking

Right
Non-verbal
Parallel Processing, intuitive
Divergent, ignores detail
Perceives & poses problems
Observed universes
Has only present time
Eidetic recall (visual images)
Long term memory, recognition & recall of faces
Semi-simple arithmetic
Introvert = Melancholic
Extravert = Choleric
Can only handle symbols where they share some identity with the thing symbolized, e.g. traffic signs or simple Chinese characters, as they are a type of drawing
Responsible for forming vowels
Motor control of lips, vocal chords, etc.
This side controls singing

Note: It is unlikely that you would find a person that was totally left-brain dominant or totally right, outside of an institution. Such a person would find it impossible to survive. Most people, however, will have an imbalance, in one direction or the other, usually to the left. In many cases, a person would benefit through a job or an activity that would place some stress on the under-used side of the brain.